This page is the home of Wife Line, a newsletter which enjoyed a popular existence for 3 years (1994-1997) before its final issue was produced. Wife Line was created by Marie Leduc as a resource "For Women Who Live With Veterans". Marie is something of an expert on the subject of marriage to Vietnam Veterans - having been married to TWO of them (but not at the same time!).
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The following will give you a good idea of what to watch for. Please note that in a few cases, the original newsletters as presented here may not include some of the original contributions. We made every effort to locate those contributors for permission to share their thoughts in this new medium, and were not successful. If you were a contributor and see this, please contact us. Also, there are references to people, places, and services within the original newsletters that may no longer be accessible.
"For Women Who Live With Veterans"
DOES YOUR LIFE SOMETIMES FEEL LIKE A STRUGGLE, LIKE EVERYTHING IS BEING LEFT FOR YOU TO DO, AND EVERYONE IS DEPENDING ON YOU TO KEEP THINGS IN ORDER, ESPECIALLY THEIR LIFE?
DO YOU LIVE WITH A VET WHO IS AFFECTED BY POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER, ALCOHOL OR DRUG ABUSE, "THE WAR"?
WERE YOU BROUGHT UP IN A DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY, WHERE CO-DEPENDENCY HAS BEEN PASSED DOWN FROM GENERATION TO GENERATION?
DO YOU FEEL ALONE, LIKE YOU ARE THE ONLY WOMAN LIVING A LIFE FILLED WITH WORDS LIKE STRUGGLE, ORDER, PTSD, WAR, CO-DEPENDENCY?
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
THERE ARE THOUSANDS OF US...WE ARE CALLED NAM WIVES OR CO-SURVIVORS.
WE LIVE WITH THE EFFECTS OF WAR. SOME 0F US WERE MARRIED OR WAITED FOR OUR VET WHILE HE SERVED IN THE WAR. WE HAVE OUR OWN MEMORIES OF LONELINESS, FEAR, WORRY. OUR VETS CAME HOME CHANGED SO MUCH, WE FEEL WE DON'T EVEN KNOW HIM. THERE ARE MANY 0F US WHO GOT MARRIED TO OR LIVED WITH A VET AFTER HE CAME HOME FROM THE WAR, AND THEN ONE DAY HE SEEMED TO CHANGE....PTSD...WITH ITS SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION, ISOLATION, RAGE, AVOIDANCE OF FEELINGS, SURVIVAL GUILT, ANXIETY, SLEEP DISTURBANCES, ETC.
DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE? COMPARE STORIES? AND SHARE FEELINGS?
"WIFE LINE" IS FOR YOU
WE WANT TO HEAR YOUR STORIES, MEMORIES, POEMS, THOUGHTS, ANYTHING THAT IS BOTHERING YOU! WE WILL PRINT YOUR STORY (AND WE WILL PRINT IT THE WAY YOU WRITE IT.) GET OUT YOUR FEELINGS OF STRESS, TELL US SOMETHING FUNNY, ASK FOR ADVICE, GIVE US ADVICE, JUST TELL US WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND. SIT DOWN TODAY AND HELP US WRITE "OUR" NEWSLETTER!